Recently my stand on different sexual issues and Biblical truths were challenged. I am taking a stand for myself and the ministry God has entrusted me with, Restored Warriors, once and for all, letting it be known where Restored Warriors and I stands on certain issues. If this challenges your conscience, your biblical beliefs, your personal moral standards, compass or boundaries, I do not apologize. On these facts Restored Warriors was built and on these facts Restored Warriors will remain. Before you attack me or Restored Warriors, attack God, it’s his word, we just stand on it and hold it to be true, lets remember, you are in a battle for recovery from sexual issues. Some things might be hard to accept, but they are there for direction and as a blueprint of our battle plan.
Daniel Glasco, Director
Among Christians, there is much confusion regarding sexual sin. The explanations below lists those “grey areas” that we hope will bring clarity to what is and is not biblically permissible.
If you are masturbating in secret or substituting it for sex with your wife, then it is a sin and goes against biblical principles because:
- You become carnally minded. Masturbation is about self-gratification—it gratifies the flesh (Romans 8:5 (NIV) and 2 Corinthians 3:1–5 (NIV)).
- It creates shame in your life, which leads to intimacy problems in your relationship with God and others.
- You become enslaved:The neurochemicals released during masturbation have the same addictive effect as drugs. Single men, who think that masturbation will help relieve their sexual desire before marriage, set themselves up for addiction that will continue in their marriage. Don’t be deceived. If God is not enough for you when you’re single, your wife will not be enough for you when you’re married.
- You fantasize; it’s almost impossible to masturbate without fantasizing, which creates strongholds in the mind.
- You violate God’s purpose for sex, which is for procreation and pleasure by putting the other person’s sexual needs and desires above your own. Masturbation eliminates both.
- You open the door to other sexual sins, such as pornography, premarital sex, adultery, and more.
Permissible within the covenant of marriage, but is considered fornication outside of marriage because it is a sexual act. Oral sex should only be with mutual consent and enjoyment— never a demand. In the Song of Solomon, God encourages married people to enjoy His gift of sex to the full. Some who have studied the Bible, such as Joseph Dillow (Solomon on Sex), think that “fruit” and “garden” references may be meant as metaphors for oral sex.
No scriptures specifically mention anal sex, but this doesn’t mean that it is not a sin. Scripture is clear that your body belongs to God and is the temple of the Holy Spirit; as an act of worship, your body is to be presented to God as holy and acceptable
1 Corinthians 6:16 (NIV): Do you not know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought with a price. Therefore honor God with your body.
Romans 12:1 (NIV): Therefore, I urge you, brothers, in view of God’s mercy to offer your bodies as living sacrifices, holy and pleasing to God—this is your spiritual act of worship.
The act of anal sex is referred to as sodomy, which the Bible condemns as an unnatural way to have intercourse. Hence, anal sex is defiling the marriage bed. Whenever you intentionally put your body at risk for harm and disease, you are dishonoring God’s “temple.”
Here are a few health reasons explaining the harmful effects of anal sex:
- The anus is full of bacteria. Penetration can tear the tissue inside the anus, allowing bacteria and viruses to enter the bloodstream. Having vaginal sex after anal sex can also lead to vaginal, bladder, and kidney infections.
- The anus was designed to hold in feces. Because the sphincter muscle was not designed to dilate continuously like the vagina, forced dilation can lead to future incontinence, which means repetitive anal sex can lead to a weakening of the anal sphincter, making it difficult to hold your bowels.
- Studies show that the person receiving anal sex often experiences shame and embarrassment which can lead to depression.
Whether you are married or single, sexual fantasy is sin. Jesus said, “But I say to you that whoever looks at a woman to lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart” (Matthew 5:28 (NIV)) . When you fantasize sexually you “look” at a woman through the eye-gate of your mind and lust for her within your heart.
The Apostle Paul writes, “Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things” (Philippians 4:8 (NIV)). Fantasies are what Satan often uses to highjack and defile our minds. Furthermore, sexual fantasy often leads to masturbation and opens the door to premarital sex and adultery.
PETTING (TOUCHING YOUR PARTNER’S PRIVATE PARTS)
Permitted within marriage by mutual consent, but is a sin outside of marriage. In 1 Corinthians 7:1 (KJV), Scripture says, “It is good for a man not to touch a woman.” One of the meanings for the Greek word for “touch” means “to press against in such a way as to kindle or catch on fire.” So another way to translate this verse would be, “It is good for a man not to touch a woman so that they become sexually aroused.”
Note: Some of the above information is adapted and/or summarized from the Marriage, Sexuality and Personal Development section from Probe Ministries:probe.org