How much does it cost?
Restored Warriors is a membership based program. The cost is $40.00 per month. A minimal cost compared to monthly porn usage sites, drugs or alcohol…Here are some of the benefits of being a member of Restored Warriors:
- Free 3 Month Trial Subscription to ‘Covenant Eyes’ – (an accountability app, $15.99 monthly value)
- Group Facilitation, other ministries charge upwards of $800.00 for this group-type meetings
- 24 hour Accountability / Relapse Prevention support line 888 MY RW 411
- No “Other” subscriptions required!
- Daily accountability ‘check-in‘
- Daily Bible readings & memorization
- Additional learning opportunities
- Accountability tracking & monitoring
- Emails & Text to assist in your battle
- On-call mentoring
- Personal Web Portal for Tracking & Journaling
- Access to the Restored Warriors University for Additional Learning
- All online meetings are around 1 1/2 hours in length and done on the Zoom platform. A free copy can be downloaded here!
Can’t afford the program? Call (888) 697-9411 option 1, for assistance.
I've tried to stop before, how is this program different?
To answer that, Id like our member Andrew to share his story with you:
As you may not know, I have been in sexual bondage for nearly 2 decades. The wounds are clear, and the binge/purge cycle even clearer over the years. I have tried (and failed) at conquering the battle for my soul time and time again. In person support group meetings (SLAA), speaking to friends I grew up with, connecting with people at the local church who also struggled, individual and marriage counseling, etc. All had short term, positive benefits in some way, shape or form, gaining me several months to up to 2 years of sobriety. But that’s just it…it gained me sobriety, to me which is such a restrictive-sounding concept. Keeping myself sober from something means that my mission was “abstaining” or “restricting” myself, which is all well and good and I didn’t look at porn for a long while, but at the end of the day, the mission was wrong. I was attending the local in person meeting, (even did a 90 meetings in 90 days) and it was all just checking a box – no real connection to my heart, my deeper being, my faith. Meetings went from every day for 90 days, to multiple times a week, to twice a week, to once a week, to every other week. You get the picture. My guard rails were single threaded, and once that single thread of ‘support’ was broken, it was only a matter of time before restricting myself, white knuckling through stress and pain from my wounds, would hurl me back into that never-ending cycle of sexual bondage.
But doesn’t God call me to “renew my mind and be transformed” (Romans 12:2)?
I genuinely cannot express my gratitude enough when I found the Restored Warrior Christian brotherhood. I literally went from zero accountability, zero Christian men who could empathize, share, connect and build up…to having 5 teammates who have my back around the clock. And I know it’s only been a few weeks, but I know that these guys are not just in this to beat sexual impurity for their own selves and their wives/children. This group is heaven-bent on destroying the enemy. This group wants to be not just followers but leaders of revival in the broken Christian churches and communities.
I also can’t share enough the intangible of having real people who care about me constantly checking in, calling, texting and sharing inspiration. It’s not just the phone call for 2 minutes asking “the question nobody wants to answer”. Replacing the negative, inappropriate content with the positive, uplifting, encouraging and humorous calls and messages is a God-send. I am the recipient of ‘random acts of caring’ all day long. Guys who listened to me bare my heart via Zoom (not to mention had such grace and acceptance that softened me to be vulnerable in the first place) has made my walk with God stronger and is beginning to help me mend my marriage. But I am already excited about beyond this team! The best weapon against this epidemic is herd immunity! How can I find the friends, family members and people of my community who have been suffering and bound by this, and pick them up, patch them up, and make them strong beyond belief? Man, I am really, genuinely, looking forward to this journey.
I’ll finish with this. Week 1 zoom meeting/intros. I smiled and was kind and polite, but my heart was hardened with pride. “Whoa, certainly think I am in a better spot than this guy…” was the thought stream, I hate to admit. But I have to.
Week 5, I am looking at these guys on the Zoom meeting, listening to the conversation, and I’m thinking “I am humbled to be on this team of all-star guys who are laser focused on spiritual transformation. I look at each one of them as the all-star of the team, who is incredible even with their ‘injury’ of sexual bondage. And it made me smile, and think “wow, team evil is in serious trouble because these guys have the stuff and are well on their way to coming back from their injury stronger than ever.”
That’s my story – Andrew
How much time will it take?
Our groups run 1 1/2 hours in length.
There are additional weekly personal growth material for some groups.
How much time do I need to dedicate each week?
We recommend around 15-30 minutes per day. Depending on the course work for that week.
How quickly will I get sober?
Here’s Restored Warriors member Nick to answer that and share his story:
How do meetings work?
All Restored Warriors meetings are done online, via the Zoom platform.
- Log in
- Check in with your group
- Talk about the lesson
- Share prayer request
How does Covenant Eyes work?
Covenant Eyes is the Accountability Software we use. You simply sign up with Restored Warriors (for a 3 month free trial account), an account is set up for you, you install the app on your devises and you have protection from Adult Content websites. Covenant Eyes doesn’t protect you from app usage, only web browsing.
For more information, please visit Covenant Eyes.
I generally don't like to share my feelings, will I be asked/forced to share in this group?
A lot of our guys feel this way. It’s kinda a guy thing. Restored Warriors will never force anyone to do anything. Our programs and the participation in them is completely voluntary. However, you get out of the program what you put into it. Restored Warriors and all members respect the privacy of everyone. That is why we have a very strict confidentiality policy.
What does the overall weekly schedule look like?
Below is a sample of our weekly schedule.
We recommend that everyone start their day with Positive Confessions.
Day 1: Meeting, complete your Daily Check In, do a nightly Shut Down.
Day 2: Read course material for the week, complete your Daily Check In, do a nightly Shut Down.
Day 3: Contact a Brother, complete your Daily Check In, do a nightly Shut Down.
Day 4: Read course material for the week, complete your Daily Check In, do a nightly Shut Down.
Day 5: Contact a Brother, complete your Daily Check In, do a nightly Shut Down.
Day 6: Read course material and answer all questions for the week, complete your Daily Check In, do a nightly Shut Down.
How long should I be a part of Restored Warriors?
The long and short of this is, how long do you want to be a part of Restored Warriors.
- Sobriety can be achieved as fast as 90 days. However, we have found that when you decide to leave our program (or any program), one will be tempted to fall without accountability.
- It takes 3-5 years to rewire the brain. We recommend you stay in an accountability group for a minimum of 3 years.
- Lifetime sobriety? Well, you would want to stay accountable to someone for a lifetime. This can be a trusted friend, or the services of Restored Warriors.
I’ve hurt my wife. How can I rebuild my bond with her?
Below are some reference material we recommend:
Join a Betrayal and Beyond Group. Contact a Group Leader or Call 888-697-9411
Tools for betrayed spouse
Tools for Betrayed Spouses (Podcasts and tools specifically for the betrayed spouse)
Tools for the couple or to use alone
Watch or listen with your spouse or alone
Resources for disclosure (sharing your sexual history)
Practical Steps to Pray for Unsaved Loved Ones:
1) Pray for God to remove the blindness from their eyes, to open their eyes so they can see. The bible says the god of this world, Satan, has blinded the minds of the unbelievers.
“Satan, who is the god of this world, has blinded the minds of those who don’t believe. They are unable to see the glorious light of the Good News. They don’t understand this message about the glory of Christ, who is the exact likeness of God.” 2 Corinthians 4:4 (NLT)
“Open their eyes, so they may turn from darkness to light and from the power of Satan to God. Then they will receive forgiveness for their sins and be given a place among God’s people, who are set apart by faith in me.'” Acts 26:18 (NLT)
Lord, please remove the blinders from ________’s eyes and open his/her eyes.
2) Pray that as they can see that the eyes of their understanding would be enlightened and that God would bring about situations, circumstances and grant them repentance in their lives to lead them to the truth.
“I pray that the eyes of your heart may be enlightened in order that you may know the hope to which he has called you, the riches of his glorious inheritance in his holy people” Ephesians 1:18(NIV)
“Gently instruct those who oppose the truth. Perhaps God will change those people’s hearts, and they will learn the truth.” 2 Timothy 2:25 (NLT)
Lord, I pray that as _______’s eyes are opened that you would bring about situations and circumstances that would lead him/her to the truth.
3) Pray for God to turn and soften their heart to make it tender and responsive.
“For the hearts of these people are hardened, and their ears cannot hear, and they have closed their eyes-so their eyes cannot see, and their ears cannot hear, and their hearts cannot understand, and they cannot turn to me and let me heal them.” Matthew 13:15 (NLT)
“And I will give you a new heart, and I will put a new spirit in you. will take out your stony, stubborn heart and give you a tender, responsive heart.” Ezekiel 36:26 (NLT)
Lord, I ask you to turn and soften _______’s heart. Put a new spirit in him/her. Take out _______’s stony, stubborn heart and give him/her a tender, responsive heart.
4) Pray that they will be drawn to God and develop a hunger and desire for Him.
“For no one can come to me unless the Father who sent me draws them to me, and at the last day I will raise them up.” John 6:44 (NLT)
“For God is working in you, giving you the desire and the power to do what pleases him.” Philippians 2:13 (NLT)
Lord, please draw ______ to you and give him/her a hunger and desire for you.
5) Pray that God would send “laborers” across their path.
“These were his instructions to them: “The harvest is great, but the workers are few. So pray to the Lord who is in charge of the harvest is, but the worker are few. So pray the Lord who is in charge of the harvest; ask him to send more workers into his fields.” Luke 10:2 (NLT)
Lord, please send laborers from variety of sources across _______ path. Let him/her see you wherever he/she goes, so much so that he/she cannot escape you!
6) Pray for God to put a hedge of protection around them so that any ungodly influences would lose interest and depart.
“But I will fence her in with thorn bushes. I will block the road to make her lose her way. When she runs after her lovers, she won’t be able to catch up with them. She will search for them but not find them. Then she will think ‘I might as well return to my husband because I was better off with him than I am now.'” Hosea 2:6-7 (NLT)
Lord, please put a hedge of protection around ______ so that any ungodly influences around him/her would lose interest and depart.
7) Pray for any chains that bind them to be broken, any strongholds to be removed and that they will be free from Satan’s influence over their mind, will and emotions.
“‘LORD, help!’ they cried in their trouble, and he saved them from their distress. He led them from the darkness and deepest gloom; he snapped their chains.” Psalm 107:13-14 (NLT)
“For you will break the yoke of their slavery and lift the heavy burden from their shoulders. You will break the oppressor’s rod, just as you did when you destroyed the army of Midian.” Isaiah 9:4 (NLT)
Lord, please break any chains, stronghold or barriers that bind _______ and free him/her from Satan’s influence over his/her mind, will and emotions.
8) Pray that their mind, heart and lives would be transformed and renewed.
“Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect. ” Romans 12:2 (NLT)
Lord, I pray that _______ ‘s mind, heart and life would be transformed and renewed.
9) Pray that they would be convicted by the Holy Spirit and change their attitude toward sin.
“And when he comes, he will convict the world of its sin, and of God’s righteousness, and of the coming judgment.” John 16:8 (NLT)
Lord, I pray that ______ would be convicted by the Holy Spirit and that he/she would have your attitude toward sin.
10) Pray that God’s kindness would lead them to full repentance, and that they would turn away from their sin.
“Don’t you see how wonderfully kind, tolerant, and patient God is with you? Does this mean nothing to you? Can’t you see that his kindness is intended to turn you from your sin?” Romans 2:4 (NLT)
Lord, please let your kindness lead ______ to full repentance and help him/her to turn away from their sin.
Same Sex Attraction
It is key to remind yourself that sexual addiction has the same root issues, but leads to different expressions. Only 2 to 3 percent of individuals struggling with same-sex attraction are battling with a gender identity disorder. The vast majority are wrestling with past trauma, which is reflected in their arousal template. You should focus on the root and causes, not on the sexual behaviors. Someone struggling with same-sex attraction doesn’t need to be pressured to announce his struggle up front. Give them time to develop trust in you and the group.
Restored Warriors doesn’t condone same sex attraction, we do not discriminate people being in our programs who have same sex attractions.
Daniel Glasco, the Founder of Restored Warriors bio might be of interest to you.
Zoom Phone Numbers
Why does Restored Warriors recommend six months of sobriety before disclosure?
When an addict first confesses, his or her motive is usually more about making themselves feel better and less about being completely honest. Most all forced or spontaneous confessions will only reveal some truth. An addict is so accustomed to deception and minimizing the facts that they aren’t capable of telling the whole, honest truth. In this scenario, more truth comes out later. Staggered disclosure leads to greater pain and a prolonged recovery process.
In some cases, a full disclosure cannot wait. A forced disclosure occurs in the following circumstances:
• When a person is caught acting out by an important person in their life (e.g. their spouse, parent, child, or employer). Disclosure needs to occur around all the activities leading up to and involved in the behavior.
• When a person has been involved in illegal activity and the activity may become public. (A spouse needs to know what legal ramifications may be coming.)
• When an affair has been exposed. The spouse needs to know the truth around this circumstance in order to find safety.
• When a person is confronted with facts of his or her actions.
• When a person has contracted a sexually transmitted disease (STD).
A full disclosure happens when the addict has been in recovery for at least six months. This disclosure focuses on the full sexual history and is fact-based (not feelings or fantasy-based). The disclosure should be in writing and reviewed by a pastor, group leader, or Restored Warriors before being shared with a spouse. A description of full disclosure can be found in Pillar Seven of the Seven Pillars of Freedom Workbook.
The spouse of the addict also needs to be in a support group. They can get input from their group leader before disclosure. The spouse should write questions needed for healing and rebuilding trust. The spouse should have their leader or pastor, review the questions. Spouses should ask only the questions that were written prior to the disclosure. If something unexpected is revealed during disclosure and the spouse didn’t have predetermined questions regarding that circumstance, then the meeting should stop in order for the spouse to process and write out new questions. This area of disclosure should be revisited at a later time when the spouse has had time to process what he or she needs to know. Although the full disclosure process happens after sobriety has been established, it is critical to recovery that the addict learns to be transparent while working toward sobriety. Relapse(s) that occurs during the recovery process should be disclosed to group members and the spouse. Immediately after relapse occurs, your Recovery Action Plan (Addict) should be implemented. Breaking free from an addiction requires a person to live an honest lifestyle, break isolation, relate behaviors to consequences, and give the people whom they have hurt the respect and dignity to make informed choices. Your spouse will have their own Recovery Action Plan (Spouse). If you are working on your recovery, but are still keeping secrets, then shame will keep you stuck. Being honest and using your recovery tools with your spouse will move you toward true freedom.